Dear Madam Yang,
I'm a wealthy woman in the autumn of my life who's found love with a much younger man, James.
When we spend time together it's like we're the only two people on Earth.
He says he'd like to take me around the world, although I know I'd be the one paying for it.
James is very ambitious, but he's only 30 and hasn't achieved much yet.
My girlfriends say not to trust him- that he's only using me for my money.
Is it wrong to want to believe in love?
Smitten in Santa Barbara
While all relationships are about trust, May/November romances are even harder to get comfortable in.
Besides your own reservations, friends seem all too eager to announce opinions that could be laced with their own jealousy and- IF I HAVE TO LOOK AT THAT GOITER AND WRINKLED LABIA ONE MORE MONTH THAN THIS UPTIGHT BITCH IS PAYING FOR MY SURFING TRIP AND MY WINDSOR BLACKJACK TOURNAMENT-to make sure you both have similar long-term relationship goals.